Break up and smell the coffee

Yesterday I was in Barista ,sitting and sipping my coffee and reading my book. I happened to evesdrop on a conversation of a couple sitting on the next table.
The guy : "....it will happen sooner or later.It may take 1 yr,2 or 3 yrs but it will happen"
Woman: So will it be sooner or later
Guy:See I am very clear about it
Woman:Iam also clear about it. I have decided to stay happy no matter what. My husband is seeking a relationship outside home and thats not acceptable to me.

Ah...so they were breaking up.Seperating.Divorcing maybe.
There was a clinical precision with which they were talking about breaking up. Maybe this is the dénouement  of happenings over months, fights,conversations they'd had so far.Somehow I sensed that the man was in a more powerful position. The woman was talking of now concentrating on her career and her life. Leaving behind the 'us' that socializes together.Talking of children and how for a daughter her father sets an example and how that affects all her future relationships. I felt the woman wanted to say more....screem at him,say you ruined by life and I hate you,your philandering etc etc....but she stopped herself .Maybe because she was in public but my hunch is because she wanted to put up a brave front and show that she was OK. I wish she could have told the guy that he was an asshole. The guy on the other hand seemed cold and cynical and seemed to be making sage like pronouncements "You have to be positive in life" WOW! what insight.
I sensed that by making her feel small he did not allow her to vent out.
There are two tactics that people apply.Either they make you feel like a goddess that you aren't ....."you are too good...I don't deserve you" OR they make you feel like a witch "Initailly I was bessotted with you .....then I saw that we were't compatible.You were too cynical and clingy"
The breed of men ! Why do they assume they have such power.
Then the man went on to discuss the finances and that she should apply for a debit card and that she would alsways find 75K in the account for spending. These guys were both doctors and well off I guess.
What struck me was the cavalier attitude the guy had. How he was sermonizing . She whould have gotten up ,slapped and told him to shut up .

Once they left another couple took their seat and I assume were living in happy domesticity. They were discussing a broken helmet and how it broke and how it needs to be fixed !Such mundane talk that I went back to my book.

I guess happy couples are those who discuss the mundane stuff with great involvement .Unhappy ones ignore each other or vociferously discuss themselves and life.

I keep thinking I want to be in a long term relationship.That at 27 I am 'not-so-young' anymore.But then I look at this stuff and I feel free. Freedom's  the thing being a relationship,being married and having kids you don't have. Freedom to choose a career, to study, to travel etc. 
Right now I can think of all indulging in a lot of stuff,I don't have these responsibilities .I guess what I miss of a relationship is the intimacy bit.

Well there's a price on everything.

Phoenix

I attended the lit fest in Jaipur and came back all refreshed and raring to go.Lit fest had some of the most titillating views  ....which left you gasping for more. And some of the most beautiful chics around....those with the long,firm limbs.And some cute guys too....well what of meeting an articulate stranger with bedroom eyes at such a festival...what of it .It doesn't happen in real life ,only in movies .Sigh!
Some parts of the fest  was boring and some provoking . It was mileu of good and bad,young and old,regressive and progressive,ecstasy and moroseness,pomp and austerity....there was something for everyone.
As is predictable you find a lot of people with intellectual trappings at such festivals. One misses the earthiness somewhere.
I can tell you that I had a lot of fun.Ever since I broke up this is the most fun I've had.
I broke up some 6 months ago ....thats water under the bridge now.Earlier on thats all I could think about...but now at Lit fest all I thought about was myself and what I wanted to do and how much I loved reading and writing.
It was a weird kind of breakup....but I wasn't shocked.Guess there was no silence before the storm so I wasn't caught unawares.Things had'nt being going well so we decided to call it off before things got too ugly.The relationship ended and I felt a certain numbness for a month which kept moroseness away .I got busy in activities that I'd always wanted to do and never had the time for .....later when the numbness went I had these scafoldings around me which kept me standing and there no real mourning.I don't remember crying too much.

It has been a time of reawakeing for me.I am doing things that I'd never done before...I am truly exploring myself and life.Becoming more independent and secure. Having said that I yearn to be in love again but not at the expense of self interest or growth.Well that too shall happen when time is ripe.I am fairly content as of now.

I can understand freedom now...in its various hues.The parts of it which drive you ecstatic and parts which drive you insane.Something that I've never experienced before.I soak in all that life has to give to me.
I can safely say these are the most sensorial days of my lives

Luv
A

I am feeling oddly happy today....
everyone around me is unhappy and equally confused on what they want to do in life....gives me an odd sense of security and contentment.I would hate to meet people who are doing some sad ass job and happy about it.Instead I love meeting who hate what they are doing and are trying to figure out what they want to really do in life.....its makes me feel that I am not alone .
For their sake and mine I hope we each figure out what we really wish to do and find a sense of closure.
If someone in the world gotta be ecstatic then  please god let it be me !